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Published on September 15, 2020

What is Self-Compassion? How is it Different from Self-Pity? Why Self-Compassion is Crucial for Success in Changing Eating Habits and Dealing with Emotional Eating

How is Self-Compassion Actually Related to Dieting?

Self-compassion is the ability to treat ourselves with the same compassion and kindness that we would show to another person experiencing difficulty.

It consists of three main components:

  1. The ability to accept ourselves as we are, with our flaws and mistakes, without criticism, judgment, and harsh self-flagellation.
  2. The understanding that we are all human, and we all experience difficulties and challenges in our lives.
  3. Mindfulness—a soft and sensitive awareness of our feelings and thoughts, without judging them.

Many confuse self-compassion with self-pity. However, there is a major difference between them.

Self-pity means focusing on failures, criticizing and judging yourself, and feeling like a victim. Self-pity only makes you feel worse, and the motivation to make a change plummets.

The tendency toward emotional eating rises dramatically.

Self-compassion focuses on understanding, acceptance, and dealing with difficulties in a healthy way.

Benefits of Self-Compassion

  • Contributes to a higher sense of psychological well-being.
  • Reduces anxiety, depression, and stress.
  • Strengthens mental resilience and helps in coping better with difficulties.
  • Improves our relationships with ourselves and with others.
  • Encourages healthier behaviors, including better eating habits and improved coping with emotional eating.

Self-compassion can be cultivated through practice

  • Writing a letter to yourself: Write a letter to yourself just as you would write to a beloved friend going through a hard time.
  • Self-compassion meditation: Practicing a meditation focused on directing compassion toward yourself.
  • Practicing positive self-talk: Notice how you speak to yourself and replace negative self-talk with positive and encouraging dialogue.
  • Gratitude: Practicing gratitude for the good things in your life.

Self-compassion is an important skill that can benefit us in all areas of our life. It allows us to deal with difficulties in a healthier way, leading to a fuller and happier life.